How old are you when your penis stops growing?

You could say to your 9 to 12-year old son:

“Your penis will continue to grow until you have gone through all the changes at puberty and when you have stopped growing taller. That might not be until your late teens.”

Boys worry if their penis doesn’t look the same as others, especially compared to the size of an adult’s penis. They may have seen their father’s penis and wonder if it will ever get to be as big.

Telling them that size doesn’t matter doesn’t take away the anxiety. Knowing that their penis will continue to get bigger through adolescence might help.

Together you can talk about men you admire, men you see as manly, and identify the qualities you value in them. These could be qualities such as honesty, good fun to be with, energetic, an ability to laugh at themselves and not take life too seriously. These are the qualities that make a man, not the size of their penis!