Menstruation – daughters first period #3
My mother told me nothing about periods, so when it happened I freaked out. I don’t want that to happen to my daughter but I don’t know how to say it. It’s a big culture issue for us.
-Mele, Samoan mother
I was lucky ‘cos my nanny told me about my mate (period) and mate rags (sanitary pads) so when it came time to talk to my girls it was okay for me. But most of my friends didn’t know about it ‘til it happened. You only talked about those things down there with your husband.
-Moana, Maori mother of three girls
Most women know of other women who weren’t prepared for their first period. The unexpected bleeding can shock girls. Some may think they have cancer or are dying because of the pain and bleeding. Some girls feel they are being punished.
If you find it difficult to talk to your daughter try talking to other mothers about it first. Young girls want to hear about periods from their mothers, and their early personal experiences of them.
Alternatively tell your daughter you are finding it hard to talk about this because it is such a sensitive and important issue. She will appreciate your honesty and you will find it much easier once you get started.
If you talk to your daughter and she seems uninterested be sure to come back later and show her you are comfortable answering questions.
